Tuesday, 20 October 2015

Is breast always best?

Image via TIME
As I've mentioned before, I don't breast feed my son. It's a decision that has caused me a lot of guilt but after weeks of pumping, it was the best choice for me and my family. Breast feeding is a personal choice but society seems to have trouble comprehending that.

Love this article from the New York Times that focuses on breast feeding and some of the reasons why people seem so obsessed with it. What I found especially interesting is the fact that breast feeding is more common amongst educated, white women. This is likely why I only know a small handful of other moms who formula feed, all of whom tried their best to get the baby on the breast because that's what is "best".

Being a mom is so hard and every day we are faced with decisions that will impact our child, from choosing a day care to choosing a sippy cup, the choices are endless. I try my best to do what I think is best but it can be deflating when I feel like my choices are questioned. 

What's even worse is I feel like the questions and judgements are coming from other moms. Somewhere along the way we've stopped supporting other moms and instead, started judging them. I try my best to respect the decisions that other moms make and hope that others do the same. So what if your kid's shirt is dirty or your hair is a mess. We've all been there.

In the same boat, respect when a mom acknowledges that she needs a break. As my sister-in-law always says, there are no medals for being a mom martyr so accept help when it is offered and realize that you really don't have to do it all. 

Today I am listening to my own advice by making a cup of cappuccino and watching an episode of the Real Housewives while Henry naps. And guess what, I feel zero guilt!

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